You Don’t Need Pickup Lines, You Just Need the Right Character
The Most Attractive Personality that You should Develop to Attract Beautiful Women, Proposed by Mystery and Lovedrop (PUA)
Have you ever wondered why are some guys just cooler than the others? The way that they talk, behave and dress. They are just the popular guys in the group. So, we are on a quest to find out what makes them special, and can we model their magnetic character to attract beautiful women into our lives? Pickup Artist (PUA) Mystery and Lovedrop had broken down the myth, and developed a theory called “Zen of Cool”. When you mastered it, you no longer need pickup lines, routines, and tricks, your character will do all the work for you.
Enter The Ghost & Flame
There are two characters/attitudes that you need to master- The Ghost & The Flame.
The Ghost is an unreactive character- nothing can affect your emotion. It is how you respond to others’ vibe. People react more to those of higher value. So, by being less reactive, people will perceive you with a higher value. For example when someone says, ‘ Nice shirt, I had one of those back in high school,’ you reply with, ‘ Oh man, you got me,’ and then smile. Just roll with the punches, no big deal. Nothing can touch you.
The Flame, on the other hand, is a proactive, playful and warm character. It is what you put out to affect how others feel. It’s constantly giving value to people around you. Most people think of the game as holding a butterfly net (gambits and routines) and ‘catching’ the beautiful butterfly (women). But a more useful view is that women are just ugly moths. All you need to do is turn on a bright light, and they will be drawn to you. The bright light is your fun, playful and positive emotion, and the good feeling that you shower to everyone.
These 2 characters might seem counter-intuitive at first, but it is very attractive to women when you can demonstrate both simultaneously. If you only demonstrate the Ghost side, you will come off as an emotionless robot; if you only demonstrate the Flame side, you will come off as a needy clown. But when both are presented, you will be seen as a charming high-value guy (with no agenda), with the ideal vibe for social interactions.
Let’s go through the list below, and understand the vibe of the Ghost and the Flame. I can only portrait the avatar for you with different words, but they are all referring to the same vibe.
The Ghost
- Comfortable
- Relaxed, Chill
- Disinterested
- Not needy
- Unaffected
- Unreactive
- Cool, calm
- Care-free
- No agenda
- Not trying to impress
- Not trying at all
- No big deal
- Non-judgmental
- Dependable, solid
- Speak slowly and move slowly
- Leaning back, instead of leaning in
The Flame
- Happy, smiling
- Having fun, laughing
- Expressive (with your face and voice)
- Always adding value
- Playful
- Positive
- Talkative
- Curious
- Makes things happen
- Warm, friendly
- Competent, a winner
- Enthusiastic
- Emotionally-compelling
- Appreciative
- Exciting, crazy
Conclusion and Exercise
You must always practice the Ghost and the Flame in all your interactions. You need to internalize this vibe through practice, so it becomes natural to you. No matter which girl you’re talking to, you treat her like they were the same girls, and with the same vibe. When you are acting normal around beautiful women, it’s a way of conveying preselection, it means you have other beautiful women in your life. The Ghost and the flame are not reserved, it is brought out to everyone.
Another way to put the Ghost and the Flame is being with your best buddies, girl or guy, in your living room. You feel at ease, you just start talking about stuff (even yakking), and bouncing around from one friend to another… You are being comfortable and being conversational with people, this is exactly the Ghost and the Flame.
So, suggestion: Walk up to strangers and behave in your mind as if you knew them all your life, and don’t hit on them or have any visible motives. You just start talking to strangers about what’s on your mind. You will remove their shields and start connecting more quickly.
Go check the list of the Ghost and the Flame before you go out in the field. And have a mindset of hanging out with your best buddies with whoever you meet.
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